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{September 27, 2010}   Pain getting the better of me

So recently the pain has gotten the better of me. At work, one of my bosses asked to speak with me regarding my take on something and I was in pain beyond words. What he wanted to discuss literally punch me in the face and with the pain on top of it, I could not handle it. So to my horror, I began to tear up and a few got past my guard. He now thinks that I am super emotional and a complete basket case. Even though he’ll deny it all day long, I know that it is fact.

One thing ran through my mind when all this was happening….If Kimon was here, he’d be calling an ambulance. I remember the threat to this day! We were working and he looked at me and said “girl if you ever start crying here are work, I’m calling an ambulance cause your about to die”. So this thought helped me get myself back together that night and work the remainder of my shift.

Those of you who know me personally, know that I should have left because I was completely tapped out. I’m proving to myself that I can push through more and more pain if need be. I really wish the need wasn’t there, but that’s life I guess.

I talked with Chris this evening and we have decided to try and change our diet again. No more fast food that just causes me to have more pain, but good home cooking. This way I can regulate what I eat. One of my other bosses has said if I try to take control of this on my own and prove that I can commit to this change, she will help me hone it further to make the pain hopefully disappear. At this point I’m desperate and will try anything. I am taking too many pain pills in my opinion and this needs to stop.

I am only 29 years old and I can not imagine living the rest of my life like this. I know deep down that this is only half of what my grandmother went through and she still pushed herself to work and be functional. I feel that I must push through like she did to make her proud of me. I know that she never wanted this for me or my sister. At least one of us has escaped this nightmare and I’m thankful that she doesn’t have to deal with it. I know that she is a very strong person but she is really just starting her life and doesn’t need this extra road block. I hope she never has to feel the pain as I do.

I also try and make my boyfriend proud by getting up and going to work everyday. Even though most days I don’t want to move, I make myself for him. I know that I have to have a reason to get up and make myself be mobile but some days it’s really too hard. Those are the days that I push even harder.

I know that there are some out there saying you don’t have to prove anything, if you need te time take it. Believe me when I ay I know where you are coming from, but he knows me better. He can look at me and know when I’m done. I could go to the government and file for disability and never have to work a day in my life again. But really, what kind of life would that be anyway. I would fall apart even faster not having something to get up for on a daily basis.

If and when I need the time and the help, I’ll ask for it. I don’t ask for help often, so if I ever ask you know I’m for real.

To those of you out there who are living with pain everyday…Please find a great support team! Without the love and support the journey is long and hard. You have to start with yourself first. A wise woman once told me, that in order to start healing is to start with yourself. If you are not willing to make the changes and choices to better yourself, nobody else will.

It’s really like a person who has an addiction. They have to see the problem, acknowledge it and fix it before others will offer their assistance. Look long and hard in the mirror and find out if you like what you see. If not, start making the changes yourself and others will help you along your journey.



{September 8, 2010}   Condition Update

So I’m still in agony everyday. Some days are definitely getting better but most days are not so great.

I went to my doctor a couple weeks ago because I needed my FMLA papers filled out for work again. While I was there, we discussed my feet swelling and how the compression socks she asked me to get were just making them swell worse. It did wonders for the ankles but not my actual feet.

So given this new development and the fact that my feet hurt extremely bad by the end of my work day, she gave me the paperwork for a Handicap Decal. So, I am now part of the population that gets Rock Star parking all the time.

Some aspects of my life are getting harder and harder. It’s like I do everything I could possibly do and still not be appreciated for what you do. It’s like, Oh, it’s Erika so everything will be ok. Which is great to be known for handling things that come my way, but at the same time it’s not what I do!

I am currently out of holiday and pto at this time. Which means I have to be careful when I a out and how often because I’m not going to be paid for it. It’s a good thing but it just adds one more aspect of stress to my life that I really don’t need at this time.

So for now I’m gonna keep smiling and pushing to make it through my days.



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